I recently got an eye opening slap in the face. I came to a conclusion today while I was at work that some men really do believe women belong in the kitchen cooking their meals or in the laundry room washing their dirty underwear and not working in public at a job. I was floored by the attitude these grown men were having.
Well here is what happened…
I had a coworker approach me about a recent event that happened while making changes to customers accounts. I was confronted in a “let me talk to you like I’m your father sort of way”. As I tried to voice my concern and elaborate on what was actually done, he clearly thought that I should just keep my mouth shut and allow him to talk to me like I was 2 years old. Well those of you who knows me personally, knows I don’t play that game. No man or woman is better than me and will not treat me like garbage. So unfortunately I had to remind this coworker about my personal policy. I was not mean or vulgar but I was short and not as sweet as usual. He continued to treat me like a child regardless of my requests for him to stop and every time I have to ask him something he’s rude. I can hold my own and deal with a grown man who wants to act like a child.. That’s fine, whatever.
However, it made me think about what men really see in women. Do they only see breasts and domestic skills or do they see women for how intelligent they are and their abilities outside of the home? Its sickening if you think about it because the women in these men’s lives must be miserable. A woman in no man’s property and vise versa (there are some women who think this way of men as well). My husband and I have a 50/50 marriage. He does dishes, I clean toilets; I wash laundry, he takes out garbage. I cant imagine my husband treating me as if I were his maid (he knows it would be a mistake to try, but still), and furthermore I couldn’t treat him like that either. But unfortunately there are still some of that generation of men who treat women as if they aren’t competent enough to change a doorknob. It baffles my mind. Its like being racist to the other gender. I just want to start screaming WAKE UP I CAN WORK CIRCLES AROUND YOU, I DONT NEED YOUR PERMISSION OR HELP!! But I sit quietly let them have their ego trip and move on.
I honestly have no idea how people lived like that. I mean I get irritated when it happens at work but for my own husband or father to be that way.. I really don’t think so! Its a shame that women who are treated this way are scared to stand up for themselves. Its time we stand up and make our stand to these men! No one deserves to be treated with anything but respect! Its just a shame!